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Unemployment or changing jobs or being stuck in a career rut is stressful no matter how you look at it, but when you multiply it by two, it can really take a toll on you and your relationship.

When my husband and I lost our jobs within six weeks of each other, we were in shock—and found ourselves spending a lot of time together, for better or for worse. During that harrowing period, we attempted to reinvent ourselves as professionals without losing who we were as a couple.

Now that we’re both collecting paychecks again, it’s easy to see many of the mistakes we made as we navigated the rocky road back to full-time employment together. The following is my hard-won wisdom on how to handle joint career stress without losing your peace of mind or your relationship in the process.

Respect Each Other’s Methods

Remember the old “opposites attract?” Well, my husband and I approached our job searches from completely different angles. I regarded it as a numbers games, sending my resume far and wide, while my husband was more strategic, cultivating connections and networking with everyone he’d ever met.

When I tried to convince him to give my way a go when some of his leads didn’t pan out, he insisted his strategy would eventually bear fruit. Likewise, when he suggested I get back in touch with people I hadn’t spoken with in years, I hesitated. Though we were skeptical of each other’s methods, neither of us was right nor wrong.

Respect your partner’s approach to their career, and if you can borrow what’s working for them and incorporate it into your own game plan, all the better. Because, ultimately, both tactics led us to new positions.

Work as a Team

During a rough career patch, you can definitely feel isolated and alone. If there’s an upside to facing it as a couple, it’s that you’ve got a partner who is attempting to overcome the same hurdle, which means your relationship has probably never been filled with more empathy. Use that compassion to cheer each other on and be encouraging on those dark days when your inboxes seem to overflow with rejection emails.

In addition to providing emotional support, you can benefit from having a ready and willing interview partner. Trust me, it’s a lot better to make mistakes in a mock interview with your significant other than with your would-be boss.

Be Gentle With Each Other

When you’re feeling raw and vulnerable during this time, something as small as a sideways glance can feel like a devastating slight.

Though it might be tempting to offer advice, sometimes your partner may just want to vent and know that their feelings are heard and valid. It’s important to keep communication open and figure out what makes each of you feel supported.

When my husband was passed over for a position we were almost certain he’d get, I found myself saying things like, “I don’t understand. How could you not have gotten it?” This ultimately wasn’t helpful for either of us. People process these life events in different ways, so treat each other with care.

Put Away Your Pride and Get Help if You Need It

There’s no denying that a career bump can cause your confidence to plummet while your stress level skyrockets. These factors can wreak havoc on even the most rock-solid relationship. Just remember, you’re not alone.

From career counseling to marriage counseling, if this period is taking a toll on your mental health or your relationship, seek help. Having a professional third party provide strategies for navigating this difficult period can assist you in getting back on track.

Though it may not feel like it while you’re in the thick of it, you will come out on the other side, and when you do, your relationship may be stronger for having weathered this challenging period nobly together.




THE five-year “farce” of a promised $500 million ‘Chinese Disneyland’ for the Central Coast “finally” ended late today after the contracts for prime land at Warnervale were torn up.

Central Coast Council revealed it had pulled the plug last week on the controversial Panda Paradise project, four months after Australia China Theme Park Pty Ltd (ACTP) failed to meet a $3 million land-payment deadline.

Council said it would retain a $600,000 deposit paid for 15.7ha of Sparks Rd land after it cut ties with ACTP on July 19.

“Any other potential sale or uses of the land will be a decision of the future elected council,” council said in a brief statement.

Former Wyong Mayor Doug Eaton, who pumped up the proposal from 2012 until his council was sacked on May 12 last year, said he was “disappointed but not surprised” there would be no Chappypie China Time.

“(The end) was clearly coming for the last few months,” Mr Eaton, who will be running for preselection this weekend as a Liberal Party candidate at the upcoming Central Coast Council election, said.

“Council and the community still benefit from the deal to the tune of nearly a million dollars.”

Wyong state Labor MP David Harris, a long-running opponent of the project, said it had been a “sorry episode from the start” and “the ratepayers have been the losers”.

“Valuable land locked up with a contract that raised considerable concerns because all the power was with a developer that had no money, no credentials and no hope of delivering,” the Central Coast Opposition spokesman said.

“Council, as a matter of urgency, should now reveal the cost to ratepayers of the whole sorry episode including staff time and any legal costs.

“And the former Wyong councillors who continually voted for and promoted this debacle should apologise and be held accountable if they try to run for the new council.”

In early May the wannabe Walt Disney of the Coast, ACTP boss Bruce Zhong, boldly declared his company had the cash to build the embattled theme park.

“Some moneys, this I got, don’t worries (sic),” he told A Current Affair.

“Don’t worries, because this is a big project — big, no small. Everything is OK … I just tell you ACTP (will) continue.”

Mr Zhong’s comments came amid mystery over whether ACTP — which had a credit rating last year of just 22/100 despite­ claiming to have a billion­-dollar asset base — had finally stumped up the $3 million first payment, which was due in March, for the Sparks Rd land. It was part of a revised $10 million land deal after the company failed to meet the original payment deadline on December 2, 2015.

Mr Zhong was never interested in answering the Express Advocate’squestions about the project. He failed to respond to at least a dozen interview requests over the past two years.

Former Wyong councillor Bob Graham said he “always” knew that ratepayers were being dudded in the “pie-in-the-sky” project.

“This was a Mickey Mouse deal and farce from day one,” Mr Graham, who will not contest the next council election, said.

“I believe both council and the ruling bloc since 2012 should hang their heads in shame over stringing ratepayers along for this long. Hundreds of jobs could have been created at this site over the past five years.”




We can all name a passive-aggressive person right now. Whether it’s the friend who takes forever to get back to your texts, or the roommate who subtly puts your dirty dishes on your bed, or even the co-worker who says hi to everyone but you in the morning.

Unlike the first two examples, the co-worker poses more of problem because we can’t just distance ourselves from them.

Amy Gallo recently wrote an article in the Harvard Business Review laying out the best way to deal with this issue. Besides the obvious suggestions to not overreact, make a big angry deal about it, or behave passive aggressively yourself, Gallo shares author Amy Su’s advice: The most important thing to remember is that, often, it’s not about you:

People who routinely act in a passive-aggressive way aren’t necessarily complete jerks. It could be that they don’t know how to communicate or are afraid of conflict…There’s also a self-centeredness to it. ‘They make the flawed assumption that others should know what they’re feeling and that their needs and preferences are more important than others’.

 Once you come to terms with the fact that that person might not be intentionally behaving this way toward you, you can address it with a clearer head. As Gallo suggests, focus on the crux of the problem, not the way it’s stated.

For example, if your co-worker huffs that you “Never listen to her anyways” in meetings, maybe that’s a signal that her opinion often goes ignored by others. Or, if your deskmate always tends to push your supplies off their desk, maybe they’re just struggling to find their own space in the crowded open office.

Thinking of it this way gives you two choices: You can just take action and do a better job at keeping your desk contained to just your desk. Or, you can say something. That doesn’t mean being confrontational, but rather conversational in the moment.

For example, the next time you see your colleague push a folder back on your desk, speak up.

“I didn’t realize that was on your desk. Sorry my stuff keeps spilling over, I’ll do a better job of staying on top of it.”

Or, in the case of the person who complains in meetings, you can say, “I’m sorry if I’ve made you feel that way, I actually really want your opinion on this.”

By acknowledging the problem without escalating it, you’re turning the situation from a passive-aggressive one to an open and honest one. And by doing that, you can set the standards of an appropriate and respectful workplace interaction. You’d be surprised how powerful your actions can be.